Aug
09

My Nineteen Year Old Son is Stranded in Chicago!

What to do?!

Call on my support systems and why creating a network is so important.

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  1. Hi Anne,firstly great news that you sons ok,thanks for the video,it was a great illustration of asking for help,thats were i have a problem.I am 51 years old and have been so afraid to ask for help of fear of being thought of as silly and dumb,but i am starting to ask because thats silly and dumb…thanks again.

    Regards Charlie Gerrard

    Comment by Charlie Gerrard — August 10, 2009 @ 6:33 am

  2. Ann,
    Great illustration of the value of a network!

    I have three daughters (24, 22, 20 yrs.) and can relate to the dreaded phone call scenario.

    Lessons learned this way really stick with a young adult. Also a great reminder to grow and nurture your network – when you need it, it’s got to already exist!

    Michael Wilson

    Comment by Michael Wilson — August 10, 2009 @ 6:33 am

  3. Important story to share Ann.
    It’s necessary for people to realize that when you are building a network for business purposes, to not lose site of the fact that these PEOPLE who you are meeting and working with have the potential to become part of your network in many aspects of your life. That is why no one is just a number or a lead or a prospect. If you take the time to cultivate the relationships as you grow your business, you are setting the stage for a very strong network in a multitude of ways.

    Peace and Abundance,
    Deborah

    PS. Glad to hear you home schooled your sons. I home school my daughter. Funny how many network marketers I meet who are also home schoolers.

    Comment by Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW — August 10, 2009 @ 8:37 am

  4. I’m happy to report that David and I connected up by phone around 11 pm last night.

    His big brother (Isaiah) had picked him up. I noticed about a half hour later Dave was online and no doubt spent some time getting today’s emails set up to go out this morning. And sure enough I found them in my inbox.

    Good job team!

    Ann

    P.S. Dave’s profile was just added to our Meet the Team page last night. http://tinyurl.com/l487hw Check it out!

    Comment by Ann Sieg — August 10, 2009 @ 9:10 am

  5. Ann,
    As a widowed, homeschooling mom, I have become used to doing everything for myself and I FORGET to ask for help……. and I need all the help I can get! I have 2 daughters (13 and 21), I spend most of my energies nurturing them, and I forget to get the nurturing I need.

    Thanks so much for your post. I am always encouraged by you, Mike Klingler, Coach Curt and others from Ren Pro and the Works Team. Thanks to all.

    Tamara Bergen

    Comment by Tamara Bergen — August 10, 2009 @ 11:37 am

  6. Hi Ann,
    I am so happy your son managed to get home safely, such a worrying time… and I totally understand Charlie Gerrard’s comments …I could say “ditto” but I am even a bit older!
    I have starting asking for help and it is not an easy thing to do but know I must if I am to move through this process.
    It is wonderful how helpful people are even if they don’t know me at all.
    Thank you again for the surprise bonus.
    Susan Seppelt

    Comment by Susan Seppelt — August 11, 2009 @ 1:39 am

  7. Hey there Ann,

    Great story, I think boys were put on this earth to keep mothers on the toes…

    I’m not a parent yet, but I sure have given my mom her share of scares. I spent the first few years of my life growing up on a farm and the first little incident where I nearly gave my mother a heart attack was when I wanted to go out and work with my dad but he was too busy to take me and said no.

    My mom got phone call and was chatting to a friend (which can last for quite a long time, meanwhile my father went to work…In the interim I decided that I’d just go out and find my dad.

    When my mom got off the phone she just thought that my father changed his mind and took me with him. When he came back for lunch with no me the panic button was pushed.

    The whole community searched for hours upon end, and with dams, creeks, and rivers all around you can imagine the distress. Eventually someone found me sleeping in the long grass obviously exhausted from my search and oblivious to the frantic search that was going on :) I was probably about three than.

    …Oh and then there was the time my father went away fishing and I decided to eat some sheep dip called Blue Strike, my mother found me on the laundry floor foaming at the mouth. So she called the ambulance, bundled my brother and sister into the car and drove at top speed for town, shaking me all the way to stop me from slipping into unconsciousness. She met the ambulance halfway to town, they pumped my stomach and all was fine.

    As if that wasn’t bad enough, they caught me playing with a King Brown Snake in the yard (I think the 3rd deadliest snake in the world). We were having fun, and I couldn’t see what all the fuss was about!

    …Is it any wonder they sold the farm and moved to town :)

    Apart from the other a obligatory boy injuries such as; broken arms, split head, deep cuts, burns, bruised ego and a broken heart (more than once), I pretty much managed to stay out of trouble for the most part.

    Luckily now I’m a big boy and I give her much less cause for worry… but as a mother, somehow I think it’s just built-in that she’ll worry anyway, oh well.

    So who else has a story about how they gave their parents a heart attack? Or perhaps you have good a story about how your children have given you a heart attack?

    Always interesting stories…

    Steve Anderson

    Comment by Steve Anderson — August 11, 2009 @ 5:21 pm

  8. It takes a village….relationship and networks are everything.

    Comment by Nancy Froio — August 11, 2009 @ 5:49 pm

  9. This is one of the hardest things to do in this age.But this reinforces the basic of relationships and attraction

    Comment by Morris — August 11, 2009 @ 6:33 pm

  10. Hi Ann,

    I’m glad everything turned out OK for your son. When I was 19, I remember doing things just like that. It is good that he has so many loving people to help him figure it all out.

    Support systems are vital. I’ve just been through an emotionally difficult period, and I couldn’t have done it without the loving support of my friends. And to keep your support systems healthy, it’s really important to nurture them. When you are not needing the support, support others. Remember thank you’s. Express your joy when you are joyful. Pass along goodwill. And always be grateful for your loved ones.

    Sometimes I am moved to tears at the depth of kindness in the world. We will all rush around in our day, filled with our worries, and then out of the blue will come a little gift–a bit of grace. Aren’t we lucky to be human beings with the capacity for giving and receiving love?

    May you and all your loved ones always know the comfort of friendship.

    Julia

    Comment by Julia Rymut — August 11, 2009 @ 6:38 pm

  11. Hi Ann,

    I have two boys and a daughter. And yes I’ve had a few of those dreaded phone calls. They are all grown now and the phone calls have changed.
    Yesterday my daughter, Siobhan, called and informed me that I’m about to become a grandpa…. So my network is growing.
    We will always worry about the safety of our children, but we will always have confidence in thier ability to make the “Right” decision, even if sometimes they don’t make the “smart” one.

    Your Friend,
    Tom

    Comment by Tom Renfro — August 11, 2009 @ 7:04 pm

  12. It is so truth what you said about support systems. I havr three daughters who live in NYC. My wife and I live in Fairfax Virginia. The oldest daughter has been the beauty editor of Glamour Magazine, Lucky, Ellle, Teen People and author of several female teen oriented novels. The middle daughter is a corporate attorney and the baby works for AOL Black Voices. Of course we worry about them in that big scary city but they are so supportive of each other that we rarely have problems. I think you are great. You are actually my hero. I so want to model you. Just getting started but there is some sense of urgency. I am a dentist suffering from a torn disk. I fear I will have to stop practicing soon and want to replace the lost income with an online business. I

    Comment by Al Williams — August 11, 2009 @ 9:43 pm

  13. Ann,

    Quite an adventure, I am sure when you haven’t experienced them before.

    Mary Ann and I have 7 children, 57 down to 28, and have received many of those calls. They do not get better as the years go by.

    But one thing is always there as you have just experienced. SUPPORT. They are trained from the getgo. Use it, do not go it alone when SUPPORT is available. Learn from it so it doesn’t happen again. I think this is why Moms and Dads were created!

    Bob Crouse
    Growth Beyond

    Comment by Robert Crouse — August 12, 2009 @ 9:18 am

  14. Ann:

    That’s an interesting experience. I am a mother

    of five children. I have experienced the worst

    scenario where one did not come back. Happy for you.

    Comment by Mary Govero — August 12, 2009 @ 4:46 pm

  15. Ann,

    As a father & stepfather of 6 adult children (ages 24 thru 28), I still even at their ages get nervous about the things they do, where they go etc. But what keeps me sane and the new growth of gray hairs on my head down to a minimum (LOL!) is prayer. Not a day goes by that I don’t pray for any of them. Prayer plus a strong coordinated support system is always a good thing to have. I know as a parent you had to be praying (I know I’d be). To God Be The Glory he is safe and sound. My prayers are always with you and the entire Sieg family.

    Comment by Larry Nash — August 12, 2009 @ 10:25 pm

  16. Hi Anne
    Great to hear that your son got home safe and sound! I had the misery of losing my child one night in Sydney. He was only 9. I went into panic mode. I had no car, and not a lot of money at the time. But I called my only friend in Sydney and she helped by calling the police, hospitals etc whilst I retraced steps to see if I could find my son. I did eventually find him safe and well and worked out it had been a mixup with another friend who had forgotten to collect him. I was overjoyed. He got a mobile phone the next day! But I found out the value of having people to call on, even if only to talk through your fears. Thanks for the video, that was great!
    Cheerio
    Harai

    Comment by Harai — August 16, 2009 @ 7:00 pm

  17. I am getting more an more excited with everything I here or read.I will be glad when I get smart and can do everything I need to do and start making money.so for it sounds like it will be a great program and I really like renegade.

    Comment by Carolyn Anglin — August 17, 2009 @ 12:12 pm

  18. Hi Ann. I simply loved your Video! You had us eating out of your hand <<>> !!!

    I loved your video, not only because it was so compelling, but also because of the professional presentation skills you demonstrated so aptly: 1. You had an interesting story to tell; 2. Your video was genuine with no fluff and it was obvious that you spoke from your heart with great sincereity; 3. You turned a potentially heart stopping moment in your life in to a powerful metaphore and teaching/learning opportunity – the power of your Network, be it family network, network of friends, colleagues or contacts; 4. Your technical presentation skills were masterful, since you spoke clearly with great inflection of your voice (probably your angst helped) and you introduced your subject masterfully, using the photo of your son as a prop – it would have made any toast master proud; and 5. Also important, your video backdrop had no distractions allowing the audience to focus on what you had to say and not on other things i.e. no kids jumping into a pool or pictures hanging on walls, or TV’s with audio in the background. This is a great video – a keeper!!

    PS: I’m also very happy that things turned out so well.

    With warmest regards and genuine admiration,

    Hans Lussenburg

    Comment by Hans Lussenburg — August 21, 2009 @ 7:08 am

  19. Ann,

    Thanks so much for sharing this has been a very valuable lesson. I’m so glad Andrew was ok and that he was able to get back home safely. It is very important to build realationships all over the world.

    I am looking forward to more of your videos.

    Cheers,

    Charlotte

    Comment by Charlotte Howard — August 24, 2009 @ 9:41 pm

  20. Hi Ann,

    What an amazing story! I believe David got resourceful because of his teachings at home. And he’s a courageous fellow to hook up with strangers. All in all, I’m sure it was a great lesson for him.

    I’m glad he’s safe and life is back to normal.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Ligia

    Comment by Ligia Fleckenstein — August 25, 2009 @ 8:54 pm

  21. Hi Ann,

    Oh those dreaded moments that pull at the heart-strings!

    I have a son 4, and a girl almost 2 and you can see their pics at my renegade site http://robertpeil.com and I would like to share a sliver of advice (from Dad) that I do fall back on in those dark moments:

    Here is the loving advice of an Oregon pioneer mother when her son (my dad) put the question to her after I was born:

    (…a young fathers first call for help…)

    Q: “Mom, I want to be the best father. what’s your advice?”

    A: “Son, just do one thing:

    PRAY UNTIL THEY’RE THIRTY!”

    Back then, if an Oregonian farm-boy reaches 30 and hasn’t got killed by himself or his brothers by then, mother did her job.

    Just listen to a few of my Dad’s boy-hood stories on the Glendale farm and you’ll understand…

    I still have grandmas advice tucked away in the “emergency” dept. in my mind.

    ***

    Ann, your story just brought us all that next step closer- the glue that binds all networks together:

    Caring.

    Just as I went to my wife for help. We got together to crack down on finding our niche. ANY niche! So we can get started. She cared.

    We don’t want to be left behind in the renegade success.

    So guess what? She has a simple passion!

    We went for it! NEVER done stuff like this before.
    As Mike teaches us to be sure to celebrate on even the smallest steps of progress…

    So take a peek at our humble beginnings:

    http://sarahs-blueberry-recipes.com

    Robert and Sarah

    Comment by Robert Peil — August 30, 2009 @ 11:51 am

  22. Hi Robert,

    Thank you for sharing some of your life with me. You have a beautiful wife and two lovely daughters.

    The blueberry site looks wonderful. I love blueberries. I’ve made a lot of blueberry pancakes in my day while raising my three boys.

    Yes, the pangs of parenting. It definitely continues on past the “required” eighteen years of age. My husband and I just spent a week with our three boys and it was wonderful.

    I’ve got a very special video I hope to get up with my 21 year old playing a very special Schubert piece. Listening to my son Rob play the piano has always had such a soothing effect on me. It’s definitely been a great way for me to defrag. I hope one of these days he recorded a bunch of pieces for me.

    And then there’s David with his electric guitar and drum set. I like that too.

    One last thing. The prayer part. Yes. Always.

    Ann

    Comment by Ann Sieg — August 31, 2009 @ 11:19 pm

  23. Tomorrow my husband and I leave for our first together vacation in five years. We have travelled separately with one person staying home with Jonathan our troubled son.
    Another mom from our support group is offering to look out for our son during our quick getaway.
    Networking at its’ finest.
    Thanks Ann, for being so real among us. Keeping the important things in front of us.

    Comment by Pat Campbell — October 1, 2009 @ 10:58 am

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