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Recently, a prospect contacted me through my blog submitting a set of very interesting questions. I got particularly interested in them because it wasn’t too long ago, about 3 years that I was asking these very same questions.
One of the questions that this prospect had was “What would you recommend for improving communication skills?” he also asked: “Do you know of any good online programs or courses?”
When I first came to America and got started with network marketing improving my communication skills was a huge objective for me, in fact it was the biggest objective I had.
I was doing cold calling, chasing prospects all over the place and I did not feel confident in the way I communicated what I wanted to communicate, thus my results were very poor.
I had a great understanding however of the importance of possessing these skills in business and in life and I was willing to do anything to help me improve my communication and connecting skills.
I was really glad that this prospect approached me with these particular questions, not only because I had them at one point myself, and not only because this is a good sign of his understanding of the importance of finding the answers to these questions, but also because I overcame my challenges and I had a solution to suggest to him.
You see, when I got started in network marketing I began to learn that education and investment in myself is very important to improving any skill, whether that was communication skills, listening skills (which is actually a part of good communication skills), or any other skill.
My mom always told me if I wanted to be able to write or express myself whether verbally or on paper I had to read more books.
So, I began reading a lot of books. In fact, just recently my dad made a comment about me reading books, after a brief chat I had with him over Skype. He asked me what am I doing, and I responded, “reading a book”. He said “Wow, once upon a time it was impossible to make you pick up a book, now you are reading them all the time” I said” I guess there is time for everything, especially when you understand the importance it could have on your life”.
And there is certainly time for reading books when you want to develop your leadership and communication skills. But it doesn’t stop there.
I also, started to listen to a lot of CDs of inspirational and motivational speakers – people who were proving right there on the CD to have the best communication skills in the world. I started observing and picking up from them quite a bit of new things. Words they were using, intonations that they were using, how they were projecting their voice.
But the time when I started to see fast changes was when I began working closely with Mike Klingler, who became my personal coach. What I noticed immediately was that my skills started to develop much faster when I had someone who cared giving me direct tips and advice to me as an individual. Mike would give me feedback after a call to a prospect or client I made, that was directly related to the things he observed about my communication skills. He would comment on an article I had posted on my blog directly related to my writing style and what he was seeing I have done, and those were the most valuable to my growth tips.
Then I met Barbara Silva and she helped me get to the next level, bringing a whole different perspective on the science of communication with others.
I went through Barbara’s Coaching Cognition course (that teaches people how to be a good coach) who thought me how to be a better listener, and when it is right to speak, how to give good feedback without hurting people’s feelings and how to express ideas while at the same time helping others feel important too.
Until then I was just vaguely realizing the importance of these things. But then Barbara shed some very bright light and made me realize that these are not only skills and embodiments of a good coach but anybody who wants to be able to influence people, whether as a business owner or just as a human being anywhere in life.
And so, after a brief evaluation of the progress I had made in the last 3 years from the time I had come to this country with broken English and no confidence and looking back into what I feel has really contributed to it I went ahead and answered my prospect’s questions.
I feel that anyone who is looking to improve their communication skills, which should be anyone who is looking to create success in business and in life, has to be seeking out one on one help from a coach, or to go through a course that teaches them how to be a coach.
This question could not have come in at a better time since people will be soon able to enroll at Coaching Cognition with Barbara Silva which – the training for coaches and the platform that allows people to hire a coach on any topic.
The training is six-month course and totally teaches you how to be a coach. And in the most fundamental level of being a good coach is learning communication skills.
For more information on this stay plugged in and keep an eye on your email box of when Coaching Cognition opens it’s doors. Or also, contact support@marketingmerge.com with subject Hire a Coach if you would like to learn more about this.
Partners in Progress,
DiDi Alcheva
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You are so right Eric, to point us back to the basics. Even if our marketing is flourishing, there is balance to review the core premises of what we have learned. It allows me to be in a better place to help someone knew.
Also, because there is so much happening in Renegade Professional, it helps to get centered and stay centered. Mike’s webinar will help do that.
Coaching Cognition is a huge benefit when some one on one is required to get past a hurdle.
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How well do you get paid?
At the end of your day are you satisfied with what you earned?
Did you feel you got paid what you were worth?
These are two coaching questions I get asked all the time:
- The first is how new coaches can get clients and the second is how to get paid and set fees.
- When developing the Coaching Cognition Program, the first question was answered – how do you get clients - We send them to you!
The second question on how to get paid was a little trickier.
Getting Paid Wasn’t My Strength When I Started My Home Business.
Well, maybe not the getting paid part…more like the expecting to be paid part. I gave my time and services away. A lot.
Now, I totally embrace the business model of giving value and over delivering. There are times when it makes sense to give a product away or discount the price in the short term so that you build up credibility for the long term. And I’ll always want to help people out when I can. But..
…you can’t run a business that way. Even if you don’t need the money, your business does – just to stay up and running. And I don’t know many folks these days that don’t need the money.
So now, here I was creating the Coaching Cognition Program designed to help other people get paid for their services!
That’s the thing with coaching. It’s very common to find yourself working in the areas you yourself need and want to improve.
Structured Fees for Coaches
Mike Klingler and I spent an afternoon together planning out a structure for our coaches to use to set their fees. This was about a year ago.
We deliberately set the entry level fees very low – in fact free. Each coach, no matter what their background, would come into the system as a Trial Coach and offer three free sessions.
Then they would move up one level and be allowed to charge a whopping $25 per hour.
Why so low?
First, to make sure that ALL of our members could get one on one coaching if they wanted it. Second, because even a new coach can feel comfortable in getting paid $25.
When I was starting out, I couldn’t find anyone to advise me on setting my fees. Everyone I talked to either gave their coaching away for free, or they charged thousands of dollars each month.
Mike and I wanted to completely bypass that awkward period of time where a new coach almost randomly sets their fees. They have no idea what to charge and when a client asks for their fee, they answer apologetically. $50? $100? $250?
Even as they name the amount, in their heads they are thinking, “Are my services really worth that much? Is this fee too high? Too low?”
Our Coaching Cognition coaches don’t have to agonize over their fees. They all start out low, and then move quickly up the Level system with the fee increases built in. They move up by having delivered their coaching services to satisfied clients. Their confidence grows along with their fee.
The “Level” Playing Field?
Here’s the fun part.
Today, I was at the doctor’s office.
In the middle of my exam, my doc asked me about my coaching. Whoa! Out of my comfort zone. This wasn’t online – this was a live person right there in the room with me. I was caught completely off guard – no chance to rehearse, bolster my courage, or give my “elevator speech.”
I was asked what I get paid and I answered.
And then he hired me.
On the way home, I realized my own program, designed to solve the “get paid problem” for other coaches, had just worked for me.
I went through the Level system too. I get paid what I do because I have delivered to happy clients. And now I get to do it again. We start next Wednesday.
Oh…and I threw in a free session. It’s not all about getting paid!
Barbara Silva
Coaching Levels at Coaching Cognition and Pay Levels 
Trial Coach – Free Sessions / Receive three (3) positive reviews to move to the next level.
Level 1 Coach – Coach may charge client up to 25 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 50%, Marketing Merge = 50%./ / Receive three (3) positive reviews at Level 1 to move to the next level.
Level 2 Coach – Coach may charge client up to 50 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 50%, Marketing Merge = 50%./ Receive three (3) positive reviews at Level 2 to move to the next level.
Level 3 Coach – Coach may charge client up to 75 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 75%, Marketing Merge = 25%./ Receive three (3) positive reviews and expand your training available by adding a new topic to teach to move to Level 4.
Level 4 Coach – Coach may charge client up to 125 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 75%, Marketing Merge = 25%. / Coach may offer package deals! Create a product package – input a name of your product you are offering i.e. “Blogging Made Easy.” List how many sessions you will offer in this package and how many credits per session you will be charging. You can offer a description with this package and may offer a discount/percentage off the standard rate you charge per session. The package will work the same as an hourly rate but each session will be treated as a one hour session. / Receive three (3) positive reviews and expand your training available by adding two new topics to teach to move to Level 5.
Level 5 Coach – Coach may charge client up 200 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 75%, Marketing Merge = 25%. / Coach may provide a link to their own eBook or product. Receive five (5) positive reviews and participate in mentoring new coaches to move to Level 6.
Level 6 Coach – Coach may charge client up to 300 credits/per hour. Coaches Commission = 90%, Marketing Merge = 10%. / Coach may coach other coaches, participate in the mentoring programs and create tutorials. If the coach is certified, they may become a Staff Coach or receive extra compensation for providing training in certification program.
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Never before has there been such a great opportunity to be a part of this caliber of ‘organized knowledge’.
It will be a true privilege to be able to help others move forward in their business.
Comment by Rick Wyatt — October 20, 2009 @ 2:20 pm
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“business model of giving value and over delivering” is a mantra I have had when it comes to Mike Klingler and Marketing Merge.
Barbara, This is genius in that it entirely takes the pressure off the coach. They demonstrate their efficacy at meeting the clients’ need,meet criterion and their pay titrates up.
The client knows exactly what the cost is, has the opportunity to trial several coaches until they meet their full match.Sounds like a totally win/win situation for Marketing Merge, coaches and clients.
And congratulations on your offline marketing. Your Dr demonstrates a wonderful confidence in you, your talent for his/her needs.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 21, 2009 @ 11:48 am
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I absolutely love this concept. This program paves the way for people who felt they could never afford a coach.
Coaching Cognition is breaking the rules and providing not only great value with their caliber of coaching but the pricing structure means that more people can now benefit from something that they thought was only available to a select group.
Comment by LeeAnn McVey — October 21, 2009 @ 6:36 pm
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I think the concept of the levels is a great solution that benefits everyone — the coach, the client and Coaching Cognition. And moving up the levels can happen so fast. I’m already at level 3 and am working on my coaching product so I can launch it when I reach level 4. Thanks so much for putting together this program!
Comment by Cindy Schulson — October 22, 2009 @ 2:13 pm
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I am glad there is a program that gives the beginner or one who needs a boost from where they currently are at no cost to begin with.
Then as one invests in their business and gets more training, there is a great program like this that is not only organized to help build “us” but create an income also. I look forward to many people being to benefit from Coaching Cognition.
Comment by Kathy Beaman — October 24, 2009 @ 11:27 am
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I have always thought of being a coach. I am a good listener and I have a caring heart. It’s on my dream board to become a coach. I never knew how to begin or build the type of skills needed to become a lifestyle coach. Now I see it coming to life through coaching cognition. What a great idea for building up the confidence level that is needed to reach the next level. This is a win/win. Thanks, Barbara, for putting this all together for us to be a part of it.
LanetteComment by Lanette Passarelli — November 1, 2009 @ 5:09 pm
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I have always wanted to help people improve their lives and I was never really sure how to do it.
Learning about coaching cognition a few months ago I realzied here it was an opportunity for me to learn and improve my own life in all areas. Through what I will learn at coaching cognition. Now I would be able to help people move forward in thir own lives.
I am so grateful to Barbara putting this together, and thank you for offering us this wonderful opportunity.
Comment by Rosemary Leach — November 7, 2009 @ 1:05 pm
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First Impressions and Early Thoughts about Mike Klingler
The first time I listened to a tutorial by Mike Klingler in the back office of Renegade Professional, I was impressed by his directness, ability to explain detailed instructions and his pace.
As Eric Walker, my fiancé later stated, “Mike has that rare ability to engage both your head and heart, which is the tell-tale sign of a true teacher-leader.”
I was not only impressed; I felt a sense of security while learning from his videos. He was speaking to “me,” a person who, at the time, new very little about creating and navigating through technical things online such as building a blog.
With Mike, it doesn’t take long to learn complicated and technical things. I recall spending the weekend with Mike – not literally – but I spent about eight hours with Mike that weekend. He walked me through setting up Eric’s Squarespace blog.
With each new tutorial I watched, I found myself developing a bond with this person on the other side of the country; getting to know him little by little, his mannerisms and sense of humor. I began to think this “talking Mike Klingler” was a nice guy.
I thought if I ever got the chance to meet him in person, that I’d like him.
Meet Mike Klinger? THE Mike Klingler, founder of Marketing Merge?
Yeah right! Or so I thought…
Later, as More Time Passed and Eric Worked Really Hard…
My fiance, Eric Walker, has been involved with Marketing Merge Renegade Professional for well over a year now. Over that time he worked his way up from being a Renegade Professional member to leader of the Super Guide Program, and is now working alongside Mike on two upcoming projects.
Whoa, wait a minute…did I just say, alongside?
That’s right! Eric now walks to Marketing Merge headquarters every day.
We made the decision to pack up our home in Michigan and move to Portland, Oregon so Eric could work directly with Mike and the rest of the Marketing Merge team – it was an offer that we could refuse, an opportunity that comes once in a lifetime.
So I got my chance to meet Mike Klingler?
-Last Saturday night-
My daughter and I arrived in Portland late that evening. The next morning, Eric informed me we’d be having brunch with Mike and Diyana (Didi) Alcheva.
Man, was I excited!
As tired as I was from the packing, flying across the country and staying up late catching up with Eric the night before (he arrived a week earlier), I woke up early and eager.
Meeting Mike, (in person!) exceeded my expectations!
First of all, I’ve got to say, listening to someone’s voice and watching videos of them does no justice to their persona compared to seeing them in the flesh.
Didi and Mike were so much more in real life, yet all at once so familiar, as if we’d already met.
Mike surprised me with his down to earth, personality! Well, not surprised, his positive attitude just seemed too good to be true.
But it was true.
I could not get over how nice a guy Mike was! You can tell when you’re meeting a genuinely nice person – you can see it in their eyes. I saw that quality in Mike’s eyes. He was direct, warm and sincere.
For example, when I stopped by the office with Ella (the mothers out there reading this may more fully understand the importance of these kind words)…
Mike said, “Kaitlin, just so you know…” and he paused. Looked straight at me, as if waiting until I looked directly back at him, and repeated, “just so you know, in case you don’t already know, you and Ella being here is not a distraction. Not at all. Make yourselves at home.”
I was a stunned by this act of genuine, sincere kindness – so disarming and welcoming. I thanked him.
Here I am with an almost eight month old baby – whose attention span is less than a minute, laughing one moment and crying the next, and Mike Klingler, who is trying to operate a new and growing company, tells me to relax, sit back and let my baby be a baby in his office.
Wow.
But wait, I think you’ll agree this story gets even better when I tell you something more…
Tonight I walked down to the office to pick up Eric.
We were going to get a bite to eat and head back home – it’s approximately 10 blocks and we walk. I walked through the unlocked doors, was greeted by everyone and sat down.
Before I knew it, Mike walked out with his guitar, and asked me if I’d mind playing a few songs.
Being the singer-songwriter that I am, it’s hard to pass up a “request.” So I enthusiastically agreed.
As I sang, the video camera came out, Eric perched Ella on top of his shoulders and the sound of computer typing fell silent.
For me, it was a beautiful moment.
One that I’ll remember for a long time.
I thought about what had just happened as we walked home and made this realization about being around Mike Klinger:
He is the kind of person who acknowledges the best qualities in others. Once he finds out what their talent or passion might be, he encourages them to share it.
That is one thing that makes him such a great teacher and such a great leader.
I look forward to more “real” moments with Mike Klinger. I have a feeling he wears “real” on his shirt sleeve every day.
So, if any of you out there thought Mike seemed like a nice guy, I’m here to make that confirmation.
I wanted to share this with all of you as a testament to Mike Klingler, that he’s the real deal, a genuine guy who keeps it real on and offline.
Thank you Mike,
Kaitlin Rose
P.S. Danielle, the sweet-hearted assistant who works for Marketing Merge, caught the guitar scene on her flip camera. Here it is for your enjoyment.
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Kaitlin, what a beautifully written article! I love reading articles that are straight from the heart and this one definitely was! Everything that I hear from Barbara and those that personally know Mike, is that he makes you feel like you are the only person in the world. I too, can not WAIT and am highly excited to meet Mike, you, and Ella, as well as everyone else on the team come January.
The video was icing on the cake. Ella loves listening to her mama perched from daddy’s shoulders. “Real” is refreshing!!
Comment by LeeAnn McVey — October 20, 2009 @ 7:21 pm
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A personal development coach I have come to greatly respect has a philosophy that how you do one thing is how you do everything. This story is a great illustration of that concept.
Mike treats his guests with the kind of respect and encouragement that you would want to receive if you were doing business with him. The good news is that those who do business with him are treated this way, as well.
Thank you, Kaitlin, for sharing that personal glimpse with us. I feel I know Mike a little bit better now than I already did.
Lane Romero-Reiss
Comment by Lane Romero-Reiss — October 21, 2009 @ 1:39 am
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Kaitlin,
Thanks for the look behind the curtain. This reality has clearly touched you in a very positive way and that is probably the best testament to Mike’s character.There is one more thing that is obvious to me, and I’m sure to everyone else that is watching and listening. And that is the quality of people that Mike attracts. Clear evidence to the leadership and quality of the individual and the endeavor.
The growing group of high quality people, with shared ideals, is what makes it all ‘feel right’. It’s the people in the room – Didi, Eric, Kaitlin (Ella) – but it’s also the long list of core team members, and contributors, and professionals and …
You just don’t see that many high quality people contributing so much talent in one place … without clarity and purity of purpose.
And that’s Attractive … that’s why there’s more people joining in all the time.
OK, I was touched. Thanks for sharing, Kaitlin.
Michael
Comment by Michael Wilson — October 21, 2009 @ 6:26 am
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Kaitlin, what a joy to follow the thread from your first thoughts connecting with Mike through tutorials; watching Eric’s friendship grow with him; to playing his guitar in a moment of joy in the Marketing Merge office.
Mike is for real. After 7 years, I’m sticking close to him and all he puts out there. He doesn’t expect work from anyone that he hasn’t already done himself.
Have fun with the team.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 21, 2009 @ 11:38 am
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Maybe its sort of like calming the angry giant with a lullaby
Thank you Katy. I was moved by your article. Of course I cry at about every movie I see but still, it was different. It meant a lot to hear you describe things in the way you did.
I really do love when you and Ella Rose come over. It has a calming effect
Mike
Comment by Mike Klingler — October 21, 2009 @ 10:22 pm
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Down To Earth
I think we’ve all known from the beginning that Mike has an incredible way of making everyone feel right at home. What amazes me is that you can feel it coming though the internet with out having met him.
Kaitlin I’ll make sure I take your song on my next sunset endeavor,what a smooth, relaxing wonderful song and a great way to unplug with a good glass of wine, Can’t wait to hear more.
Comment by kevin thomas — October 27, 2009 @ 12:11 pm
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Talent comes in many forms. Thank you Kaitlin for that lovely rendition. Eric is a lucky guy and we are the more blessed by your interactions with all of us.
Comment by Marie Leonard — November 9, 2009 @ 9:40 am
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If you’re training has been a success, and you’re getting along with Renegade Professional, and building your business, much of what I’m saying here will elicit an “Hmm hmm” with head-nodding agreement.
But if not, if you’ve been floundering, and picking and poking around at the vast array of click by click training in your back office but only getting the breadth, not depth, this email is for your eyes. Read closely.
Because today I want to stress the importance of customizing and personalizing your Renegade Professional training.
This is an aspect of your Renegade Professional training that Mike Klingler talked heavily about to membership at the end of the year before he closed Renegade Professional for relaunch with Ann Sieg. He hosted a webinar. I’m going to refer to this webinar and much more.
Own Your Renegade Professional Training
The most successful people, not just from the internet realm, but all walks of life – whether it be insurance sales in a small Nebraska town or making movies in Hollywood, or whether it’s old school offline Network Marketing or internet affiliate marketing, it comes down to ONE thing and ONE thing only…
Ownership.
And you can only “own” it if you customize and personalize your training so it’s tailored just for you.
Think about it in another way…
When you were in high school, or if you went to college, or perhaps if you received any advanced training for a career – what was the first thing you did?
You signed up for those classes and you knew specifically what you wanted to achieve; you knew specifically what the outcome would be if you made it through.
When I knew I wanted to be an elementary school teacher, I met with a counselor – found someone who would guide me. I then continued to find smart people whom I respected who would listen to my goals, answer my questions and lift me up (as opposed to bring me down).
Meanwhile, I took the appropriate classes that I knew would lead toward my vision of being “Mr. Walker,” the amazing, high energy, funny but strict 5th grade teacher who made the kids write a lot.
Things get clear real quick when you approach your internet attraction marketing/internet business in this same way.
BUT… this is exactly where so many fall short.
You won’t fall short when you personalize and customize your training.
If you’re with Renegade Professional, you’ll find this training EXTREMELY helpful, but if you’re not, it’s still EXTREMELY helpful.
You might be taking Traffic Formula 2, or you might just be getting started with Magnetic Sponsoring or the Renegade books. It could be PPC, or learning how to leverage Social Media Marketing.
Either way, the recorded webinar I’m about to reference is all about focus.
It’s all about aligning YOU with your business development and keeping focused on that. It’s normally a part of the Renegade Professional back office, but I see SO many that need this.
So often it’s overlooked. And so often, I think people are missing this very important webinar, which can be found from you main menu under the Start Here Checklist.
I’ve sent it up so you can easily access that webinar now. Here it is, go to the recorded webinar about customizing your Renegade Professional training. Click the link below:
Customize and Personalize Your Renegade Professional Training.
Still need more assistance?
If there answer is YES, that’s okay because we have you covered.
Get a Coach or Consultant to Work with You One on One so You Can Customize and Personalize your Training.
Renegade Professional and Barbara Silva has put into place yet another provision that will help you NOT fall short.
It’s Coaching Cognition.
I hope you’ve been reading the educational pieces Mike has been putting out there about Coaching Cognition.
If not, visit the following URLs:
http://www.renegadeprofessionalnews.com/EntrepreneurNews/coaches
http://www.renegadeprofessionalnews.com/EntrepreneurNews/mikeklingler
If you spend an afternoon really lapping all the content like a kitty cat that gets sloppy with a dish of milk, I have confidence you’ll understand the unprecedented training and opportunity you have access to at Renegade Professional.
And it just got better because now there is – built into the training “university” program – a coaching platform.
Improve the Odds that You’ll Succeed, Save Time, Eliminate Pain, Increase Pleasure and Make Money Faster
So you may loosely fit into any of the following:
- You’re brand new to attraction marketing
- You’re not new but seek clarity & direction - (You need assistance with where to put your focus and to minimize overwhelm)
- You’ve done Coaching before – or want to be – or you have the makings of a list
If you fit into any of these loose descriptions, you can choose to be serviced by connecting with a coach, or you can work even harder (and smarter) to transcend your experience and collaborate (joint venture) with Renegade Professional.
You have a several options to choose from, many of which Mike has pointed out in his article called What Renegade Professional “Beginners” Should Be Thinking About.
The point is, and what I know Mike is really trying to drive home – getting at the heart of the matter – is this:
If you don’t…
- Learn the characteristic that determines success in a “noisy” Internet environment – how to minimize your workload & the “overwhelm” while maximizing your time – if not, you’ll never succeed.
If you don’t…
- Learn to customize your plan – know what you’re trying to accomplish right now… and at what stage you are in the overall process – you won’t succeed.
If you don’t…
- Learn to make it personal – personalize your plan – find your strengths and preferences & focus only on those marketing methods you enjoy most – you will likely fail.
This goes beyond marketing (to an extent) and into the core essential list. The list was originally published by Mike, in his article titled, I Gotta Make this Work! Finding the Only Shortcut and Taking It, but it’s worth repeating here.
Mike’s Essential List to Focus on Developing:
- A keen insight
- An ability to influence others
- An ability to choose the right opportunities for you
- An ability to create and communicate value
- An ability to attract people to you through networking and marketing
- An ability to inspire others by truly connecting with them, by listening
- An ability to cultivate partnerships
This, I promise you, is NOT a formula, yet it’s the EXACT “formula” that will get you where you want to be, will put you in touch with the person you want to be, and you will amaze yourself after a period of time when you reflect on your growth.
All of these factors will put more money in your pocket if they’re cultivated around your passions.
I’ve woven myself into the fabric of Renegade Professional, and whether you need a coach, or want to be a coach…
…if you need extra “super” guidance, or want to be a person who does…
…if you want to contribute training, gain exposure and leverage the skills you have from a previous experience in a career…
There are infinite opportunities for you at Renegade Professional, and I can help you, or direct you to the person who can within our one of a kind close-knit community.
Don’t wait, life is to short.
Leaving No Renegade Professional Behind,
Customize and personalize your training first.
Learn how to do that by watching this webinar –
Customize and Personalize Your Renegade Professional Training
Eric Walker
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Without a doubt you have targeted the main reason people do not succeed with online marketing. Distractions is a major force to deal with when working toward a goal. On the internet distractions are overwhelming. Every day people are bombarded with emails, pokes, instant messages, etc.
Recently, I realized that one of my biggest problems in getting things done was the number (and increasing daily) of email lists that I was subscribed. I have started asking myself every time a new distraction (opportunity) presents itself, “How is this going to help me achieve my goals?” The real secret is not letting my focus on not being distracted, becoming a distraction.
This article and the Get Started Right map in Renegade Professional are great helps in taking the right steps to becoming a success not only online but in life.
Jim
Comment by Jim Watkins — October 21, 2009 @ 5:31 am
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Eric,
Great guidance.Getting a clear picture of where you want to go and creating a specific plan to get there is so critical to success. It’s the key to working in the ‘noisy’ internet environment and staying focused.
In reality, many people have probably watched the webinar about customizing your own training and ‘got it’ intellectually but still had trouble implementing it. I know that was true for me.
Nearly everyone that succeeds can point to a Coach, Guide, or Peers that provided the keys to creating their own plan or support as they got over the first hurdles.
I agree with you – ‘Owning It’ is required. And the sooner you get help, the faster you’ll create something you are proud to own!
Michael Wilson
Comment by Michael Wilson — October 21, 2009 @ 5:51 am
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You hit the nail on the head Eric. Marketing is about personal branding. Personal branding requires that you get clear about your everything from your goals, to you training, to your learning style and personality type. A good training program and/or coach will start where you are, and help you find the right path for your specific journey.
Anything that is “cookie-cutter” or copycat in our present web 2.0 world will not cut the mustard..or so to speak.
Peace and Abundance,
Deborah Tutnauer, LCSWComment by Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW — October 21, 2009 @ 7:18 am
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I know that Renegade Professional is the place that I focus on to cut out all the “noise” of the Internet when it comes to Internet marketing training.
Eric, you nail it when you point out “owning” the outcome of all personal Internet marketing activity. As a business owner, the responsibility is ours alone to achieve our business plan. It is our responsibility to find the tools, training and coaching to move us forward.
Renegade Professional, with Coaching Cognition, and other services is a one stop Business Center for all marketers.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 21, 2009 @ 12:01 pm
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I’m one of those you refer to as floundering, picking, and poking, so I tend to agree with your advise to “customize/personalize” the training. As you know, the variety of choices on the Renegade Professional Back-Office” is pretty overwhelming, as well are the number of links on this e-mail. Which one to choose first, what path to follow, etc.?? But I definitely want to start, somewhere, and stay on a routine. Help would be welcomed. Thank You, Dean
Comment by Dean Duhart — October 21, 2009 @ 5:51 pm
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Hi, Eric.
Your news letter came in at a good time. Whenever one feels like pulling the plug, with the feeling of… ‘what’s the point! I am not getting anywhere!’ And then along comes an article to lift your spirits. I feel that these news articles were meant to land in my inbox.
I thank you for plugging me back in, and reuniting me with my visions once again.
Wishing Everyone Good Health And Prosperity
DerekComment by Derek Fobert — October 21, 2009 @ 6:55 pm
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Thank you Eric. I have been floundering and found focus by applying for superguides. As I get my application together I am developing “You Inc” and “We Inc”.
Thank you
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Hi Jennifer,
I was in the same place once upon where I was floundering and had only 5 pieces of content to my name on the web. Then I heard about the Super Guides, and caught fire. If you’re making Super Guides a goal, you will benefit in more ways than one. Best luck and will keep an eye for your application.
Comment by ericwalker — October 29, 2009 @ 3:48 pm
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The Best Of Renegade Professional News — Tuesday — October 19st — 2009
Getting Back to the Basics – 7 Lessons to Attract Prospects
One of the first things any internet marketer needs to get clear on is “who is your target market,” and then to identify “what are you actually selling to your target market.” Doing this is the first step toward monetization (i.e making money).
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The other day I had my first client through our new Coaching Cognition platform that we are soon going to introduce you to officially.
I had a little communication back and forth through email with my client who was really eager to make progress with his business online.
He already had a few pieces of content out there, professionally projected videos and even an online community.
However, one thing that I could sense after talking to him on our first 15-minute free consultation and after looking over his content was that he was not completely clear on some of the main fundamentals. This was putting him in a risky position to really get bogged down with moving forward in the wrong direction.
One of the first things I wanted him to get clear on was “who is his target market”, then identify “what he is actually selling to his target market” so that he can start correctly on the path of monetization (i.e making money).
I referred him to the free amazingly valuable “The 7 Lessons to Attract Prospects to You” by Mike Klingler the founder of Renegade Professional.
Before our first session together my client was able to focus on these two fundamental questions with the help of Mike’s 7 Lessons and that had a huge impact on the progress we made and the confidence that started to exude from my client.
He felt as if a huge weight has been lifted from his shoulders. It felt as if he had just found his identity in his online business and he was now able to confidently continue moving forward with establishing his presence online because he had clear idea on the type of efforts he should put forth with very defined and sharp focus.
Why are these questions so important to be answered in detail?
This is exactly what Mike Klingler will share with you and much more in the “The 7 Lessons To Attract Prospects to You.” These are basic fundamentals that can help you get started properly with online attraction marketing. Without them it’s almost certain you will get lost, feel confused and overwhelmed. This is absolutely true and I feel the need to emphasize it here so that you realize that the next thing you should do before continuing forward with your day of building your business is reviewing the 7 lessons right away.
If you’ve been at the free attraction marketing system Renegade University you might have received the 7 lessons in your email box.
But if you haven’t you have access to the 7 lessons in your Renegade Professional back office at the very top when you login to your account.
Why is it important that you review these 7 lessons even if you have done so in the past?
Because when you started your business, or when you reviewed the 7 lessons you most likely were on a completely different state of mind that the state of mind you are now. You are either progressing or you are stuck. Either way reading the 7 Lessons again can help you gain even more clarity and either confirm that you are on the right track and help you gain new ideas, or put you back on the right track.
Go to your Renegade Professional back office by logging in at MarketingMerge.com and once you login click on the link at the very top of the page that says: The 7 Lessons To Attract Prospects to You
Enjoy!
P.S. If you don’t have a Renegade Professional account yet, you can get on by clicking on Renegade Professional here.
Partners in Progress,
DiDi Alcheva
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Didi,
You make a very good point in steering us back to the basics.It is so easy to be energetic in moving forward in the strategies of Attraction Marketing without reviewing the central focus of our marketing. We tend to not revisit tutorials that are so foundational to our success.
I was just thinking today, how differently I would approach setting up a new blog with the knowledge I have now.
Going back to the tutorials in Renegade Professional now, has great value to me, viewing them with “different eyes”. I know I am going to benefit hugely, taking your advice and acting on it.
Congratulations to the first student of Coaching Cognition and his work to put some puzzle pieces in place with a little guidance.
How cool that free tutorials available in Renegade University makes that kind of impact. This reflects the incredible value of Renegade University and Renegade Professional
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 19, 2009 @ 5:45 pm
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Dear Sirs/Madam,
I definitely know that your way of training response well enough on those who wish to promote their business & of course I do wish it as well.
I have lack knowledge of computer as I believe knowledge is power.
Therfore I am taking a computer class it might take a few weeks to do as you say.
Thanks & apologize for all inconveniences caused.
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DiDi,
Thanks for keeping us focused and organized!
Some say knowledge is power, but if it isn’t organized, focused and put into action, nothing will become of it!
I couldn’t find a better group of people to keep myself surrounded by.
Thanks for the update!
Comment by Rick Wyatt — October 20, 2009 @ 2:57 am
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Thanks for this Didi, I have a coaching client that I’m going to be with in a few days. I’ll make sure and check that this client has done these fundamental things.
Comment by Julieanne van Zyl — October 20, 2009 @ 3:49 am
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Didi,
What a great article.
I ask myself why did it appear this morning when I had already planned my day?
Because this was just what I needed.It is appropriate just as I am re-thinking again “Who is my Target Market” and shall I begin a new blog with the knowledge I have now.
and look from a different perspective.The value that Renegade University continues to give, much of it for free, is really quite remarkable..
When I first began it was like a sprint to get through all the trainings as quickly as possible. How wrong can you be? Now I am re-visiting and understanding the messages and information that is being delivered.
Thank you for this today.
Comment by Judith Atkinson — October 20, 2009 @ 3:58 am
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thank’s a lot mike im getting ready to go over lesson 1 throw 7 right now i have been suffer from information overload .
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DiDi -
You remind me a little of the great coach Vince Lombardi.
At the beginning every training camp, he would assemble all of the players for a meeting. In this meeting, he would walk in, hold up a football and say, “This is a football.” Now, that may sound ridiculous, since he was coaching some of the greatest professional football players of their time, but it was just his way of getting his players to focus on the basics. He was adamant that his players were proficient in the fundamentals before they moved on to anything else, which is probably why his teams were so successful.
Many times we find some new tool, or discover a hot new social media site, and we lose focus of the fundamentals of how to succeed. We get distracted with trying to implement our plan, and often forget what the plan actually is.
Thanks for reminding us.
Comment by Patrick Howard — October 20, 2009 @ 8:52 am
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We think that once we’ve read it or viewed that we know it.
Unfortunately, that is not so. Thanks Didi, for steering us back to the basics. Of course knowing your target market is key or else, one is just putting up wallpaper that has no glue.
Comment by Marie Leonard — October 20, 2009 @ 9:21 am
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Hi Didi,
Thanks for the great reminder!
I recently went through a very similar situation where I had not clearly defined my target market and what I was offering.
With the help of a coach, Steve Anderson, I was able to get that clarity and now I feel like I’m off and running again.
I agree that without that clarity there is lots of overwhelm.
But with the help of Renegade Professional, reviewing the basics and even a coach it doesn’t have to be that way!
DianneComment by Dianne Thomsen — October 20, 2009 @ 9:47 am
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Didi, what a great point you make.
I remember clearly the day I started getting the 7 Lessons and I was blown away by the valuable information provided in these lessons all for free.It is the major reason I joined Renegade Professional.
You have motivated me to go back and re-read the lessons to not only help myself but anyone else I can along the way.
Deb
Comment by Deborah Marsden — October 20, 2009 @ 4:09 pm
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Thank you so much for that advice, DiDi! I will definitely go through the lessons again.
It is all about programing. De-program and Re-program. It would require us to get rid of the old ways of thinking… the ways which are not working, and learn new skills by participating and taking action. Practice doing something over and over again. For example, do not just read a book once… read it 7 times, and eventually it will be burned into our minds and souls, thus programing ourselves.
Going over the 7 Lessons To Attract Prospects To You, will likely give me so much more clarity, taking me to other levels of achievement and then allowing me to move forward that much further.
Thanks again, Diyana!Comment by Derek Fobert — October 20, 2009 @ 4:18 pm
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Didi,
You make such a good point by bringing those of us who have been doing this for awhile to keep the basics we learned in the beginning as our foundation.Sometimes we all need to be reminded and to check ourselves by revisiting the beginning! Even though we may know better there are still many times where we can feel quite overwhelmed. Going back and reading the 7 Lessons again helps us all take a deep breath and realize that the path we are on is a good one.
Comment by LeeAnn McVey — October 20, 2009 @ 7:40 pm
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Didi,
Good reminder. Focusing on the fundamentals never gets old or goes out of style. So often, it’s just what we need when our progress slows down or we start to get confused.Hey, if it’s good enough for Vince Lombardi, it’s good enough for me!
Thanks for that comparison, Patrick. It’s a good perspective.Michael
Comment by Michael Wilson — October 21, 2009 @ 6:00 am
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Thanks, for the solid reminder, Didi.
Sometimes, in an effort to ‘get as much as we can’ in gathering information, we can simply overlook some simple basics; like the 7 Lessions.
Thanks, again for the reminder
Comment by Wayne Holloway — October 21, 2009 @ 6:31 pm
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Thanks for the reminder, Didi
I had gotten off track and really wasn’t sure what direction to take. But now i will go back and then try to get back on track thanks a lot.
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Hi Didi,
Thanks for reminding the basics of network.This is what is required when we are not getting the results.Comment by Dr.Sunaina Rohatgi — October 25, 2009 @ 5:49 am
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Working From Home – Coaching Cognition’s Dynamic Duo
Barbara Silva, author, educator, coach and home business entrepreneur, takes a break to sit down and have a cozy chat with her daughter, Kendall Silva.
Kendall is the newest addition to our Coaching Cognition team. She majored in psychology at Austin College in Sherman, Texas. Kendall realized early on that psychology was a perfect fit for her when in high school she determined that helping others was something that came naturally to her.
Watching her mother, Barbara, who enjoys working from home, go from learning how to do online marketing with the help of Mike Klingler and Renegade Professional and then branding herself as an educator, author and coach was awe-inspiring for Kendall. Kendall decided that she wanted to try her hand at marketing something that was near and dear to her heart as well.
Another Home Based Business Entrepreneur is Born
Kendall first dabbled with her own online marketing using her love of music as her niche and choosing young teenagers as her target market. Kendall, also writes, composes and sings her own songs and she decided that she would take advantage of MySpace to showcase her many talents.
Being a chip off the ole’ block, she began by visiting other people’s MySpace pages and leaving genuine and sincere comments. Kendall never mentioned her business nor did she do any self-promotion when leaving her comments.
Social Marketing Rule #1 – Never Self Promote
In a few short months, the people for whom she had left comments began to visit her MySpace page to see what she was up to and leave their comments for her, too. But more importantly they were listening to Kendall’s lyrics and enjoying her music! Mission accomplished. Kendall now has a community of people who look forward to her next project and we’re sure she won’t disappoint them!
A Home Business Opportunity – The Coaching Cognition Bug
It’s easy to see that Barbara and Kendall enjoy a very easy-going relationship with each other. They are very in tune with one another and often finish each other’s sentences. With Barbara’s home business opportunity, Coaching Cognition gaining momentum she knew she needed help. That is when she first hired Kendall to write an article for her coaching platform that was just in its infancy. Kendall quickly decided that she not only wanted to write the article but also become a part of her mom’s team.
With her counseling background and her love of helping others, Kendall felt that coaching would be a natural transition.
Kendall stated it best when she said that one of the advantages to working from home with her mother is, “I get to see her! Working with her doesn’t feel like work at all.” When pressed for any disadvantages to working with her mom, she coyly whispered, “I’ll tell you about that later!”
Making a Home Business a Family Business
Besides working with Coaching Cognition, Kendall also works a full time job in the retail industry. Shortly after deciding that coaching was a good path for her – Kendall’s company created a new position for her. They realized her natural talent and gift for taking her co-workers skills and enhancing them utilizing her coaching background. Hmmmmm…anyone else seeing the Law of Attraction working here?
Kendall and Barbara are having a wonderful time working from home together developing the training classes that will be used to train future coaches of Coaching Cognition. One of Kendall’s favorite things to do with her mom is to come up with the innovative and fresh ideas that bring about a mental image to help others grasp a concept they are planning on teaching to others.
Fun Fact about Kendall
At the tender age of 8, she invented the “Unburnable Flag” in response to the controversy in the news at the time about freedom of expression vs. desecrating our nation’s symbol. The flag is now housed in the George H. Bush’s Presidential Library and she received a letter from the President himself.
Welcome to the Coaching Cognition team, Kendall!
Lee Ann McVey left Corporate America over twelve years ago to become an entrepreneur and raise her two sons. Her people skills, sense of humor and thorough understanding of internet and affiliate marketing have created several joint venture opportunities for her such as Personal Touch Card Services with Kate Williams. For the past year, she has worked closely with Barbara Silva and is one of the core members of the Coaching Cognition Team. Lee Ann is the co-author of Learn to Build and Maintain Relationships, A Heart-felt Tool for Life.
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Welcome to the team, Kendall! We are all very excited to have another family on the team. It aligns truly with Marketing Merge’s values and vision. I am so much looking forward to meeting you on the phone and in person in the nearest future.
It is so nice that Barbara has her closest to her person (her daughter) sharing her passion and helping her execute it. Barbara is the nicest and brightest person ever and the cherry seems to have fallen really close to the tree.
I love the positive and bright energy that comes out of you both. The Coaching Cognition coaches and students are for an amazing treat. You are going to rock our world!DiDi
Comment by didi — October 14, 2009 @ 8:45 pm
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How cool to discover just by the process of connecting with people in social media and validating them as a social young adult, Kendall developed a community of friends. She discovered the reality and power of social marketing at it’s finest.
Then connecting the dots between what her experience in social media and her passions/talent with councelling and coaching, along with the privilege of working from home with her Mom; Kendall’s new job is a dream come true. A dream many families would love to live out.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 14, 2009 @ 8:46 pm
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This is really terrific. I can recall having a phone conversation with Barbara about how successful her daughter was with using social networking without even realizing it.
This is such a good example of Attraction Marketing at work.
Now Barbara has the added bonus of having this talented young person who just happens to be her daughter, join her in the Coaching Cognition business.
Congratulations to you both and to Coaching Cognition for having such a dynamic team on board.
Comment by Deborah Marsden — October 14, 2009 @ 9:08 pm
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Hi, Kendall. It was fun to read this article about you and “meet” you via video. It’s a dream of mine to work with my daughter–so I’ve made sure she sees this article and video, too.
I look forward to working alongside you at Coaching Cognition. With Barbara as our mentor and guide, we’ll be a very strong team!
Kate
Comment by Kate Williams — October 14, 2009 @ 9:11 pm
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Hi Kendall:
Welcome to the team and Renegade family – looks like the tag ‘renegade’ is right at home with the Silva family. Thanks for sharing you mom with the world – she is amazing!
Are you going to write a theme song for Renegades or CC?
Comment by Curt Johnson — October 15, 2009 @ 5:15 pm
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Welcome Kendall!
As you already know, your mom is the greatest and its wonderful that you get to work together. We’re excited to have you on the team and to learn and share together.
all the best,
CindyComment by Cindy Schulson — October 16, 2009 @ 4:28 pm
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Thanks Didi! I am truly excited and honored to be a part of this great program. I can hardly wait to meet you as well!
It is exciting to know that there are so many great people out there who have the same giving attitude that I have when it comes to business practices, and I’m learning how well it can actually work!
The live event in January is going to be so much fun! Getting to meet all of you at one time will be fantastic. I hope you’re ready for all the craziness you’ll experience when me and my mom get together, lol!!
Kendall Comment by Kendall Silva — October 16, 2009 @ 6:34 pm
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Hello, Kendall.
Your interview with your mother was very inspiring.
You and your mother share a very unique bond. I hear the same passion in you that your mother has; thus, you will make the coaching team just that much stronger and more valuable.
Hope to see you inside coaching cognition!Mark
Comment by Mark Herdt — October 17, 2009 @ 3:07 pm
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Kendall & Barbara are having a wonderful time working from home…
Families doing business together – the concept and practice is an old one, but doesn’t it make more and more sense in this new millennium of entrepreneurship (especially on the internet)? It sure does.
I know what a HUGE endeavor the Coaching Cognition program has been from day one, and how many talented people have been needed to make this happen.
What is remarkable to me is that Barbara didn’t have to look any further than the dinner table. I am learning, and you will notice for yourself when you watch the video by following the link at the top of the article, that Kendall Silva is a rare gem cut from the same fire as her mother.
It has always been a pleasure to work with Barbara – I’ve always called her my “pseudo mom” because of the closeness we’ve shared, and her ability to always be there for me when I needed a sound board or strategic coaching to get me over a hump. Sometimes it was just her wisdom. She is family. And I now look forward to building relationship with Kendall. I know what a talent she is.
Eric Walker
Comment by Eric Walker — October 18, 2009 @ 9:53 am
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What a wonderful article about Mother and Daughter!! It’s fun when you can work together like that. And, Kendall has obviously learned from her Mom’s example over the years – from what she did on MySpace with her music. Congratulations to Kendall on joining the coaching team and your new job position also!
Comment by Julieanne van Zyl — October 18, 2009 @ 2:07 pm
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This article is a great example for anyone that is thinking about a home based business becoming a family business.
It is fantastic to read about someone, like Kendall, who is educated and talented finding an entrepreneurial niche so early in life rather than just automatically buckling in for ‘job’. She’s worked her unique selling proposition into her work and even her unique approach into MySpace interactions.
There are so many horror stories and warnings – ‘don’t do business with family’ – that it’s refreshing to see very positive experiences.
My daughters have worked with me at times, and we’ve enjoyed it – I know I’ve enjoyed it!
However, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten the Highest Compliment – “It doesn’t feel like work at all”
That has to be the best thing in the world – what an inspiration!Michael
Comment by Michael Wilson — October 18, 2009 @ 2:40 pm
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The working relationship which has developed between Barbara and Kendall is as powerful a statement about the effectiveness of developing a coaching skill set as you can make.
Barbara has developed these skills as well as anyone I know, and I suspect she has been doing so for a LONG time (not calling her old, or anything…haha). The results are evident in her daughter’s ability and desire to follow along a similar path.
Mike Klingler recently wrote an article about how coaching can improve your personal life as well as your business life, and I think this exemplifies perfectly what he was trying to say.
Comment by Lane Romero-Reiss — October 18, 2009 @ 3:54 pm
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Sorry, but I beat Kendall out on the Company song. I already sang it for the gang in Portland. LOL Did I mention both Kendall and I have a theatre background? Big surprise. lol
Comment by Barbara Silva — October 18, 2009 @ 4:36 pm
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I would think that there is no more satisfying development in a person’s life than to work their children. For years, I worked along side my father and learned a lot about traditional business.
I envy Barbara’s position as I too have a wish to someday work closely with my daughter.
Keeping one’s options open to all possibilities may just make it happen.
Comment by Marie Leonard — October 19, 2009 @ 6:39 am
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How wonderful is it to have your son or daughter work along side you in your work, your goals, and what you’re passionate about? It’s probably what every parent hopes for.
Barbara, you’ve done a super job raising her and it’s coming back to you, along with everything else you are putting your personal touch on. Kudos to Kendall for her choice of employer!Comment by Becky Joubert — October 19, 2009 @ 8:07 am
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A Mothers Dream
Having your child decide to work with/for you must be one of the highest compliments. Very cool! Then to work together toward a common goal, something you love, that is the ultimate goal for anyone looking to work at home. Wouldn’t it be great if all families could come together like this?
Michelle
Comment by Michelle Moseley — October 19, 2009 @ 10:04 am
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This is a very special article.
It shows how businesses are able to grow and become nurtured with the help of family. Kendall is so very fortunate to have such an endearing mom and Barbara such an enlightening and embracing daughter.
I am sure that any project that the two of you embrace together will be very powerful.
If all could embrace mutual respect and love.
Ladies thank you for sharing the interview.
Angela James
Comment by Angela James — October 19, 2009 @ 10:04 am
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Awesome! No generation gap here.
This is a very special article and video and I can’t wait to be introduced to Barbara and Kendall as the dynamic duo in Cognition Coaching.It must be the most wonderful and satisfying feeling to be working alongside your Mum and your daughter – what synergy!
What an exciting journey we are all going to have learning from you both.
When are we going to hear the rendering of the Renegade Number 1 Hit? Oh boy this is such fun.
Comment by Judith Atkinson — October 20, 2009 @ 5:51 am
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Watching Barbara and Kendall is wonderful. It is so great when we can pass on the value and joy of working from home to our kids. What better way to be able to continue to mentor them and take part in their development?
and yes. what a supreme compliment to the mom or dad whose child steps up–to be their own person in conjunction with their parent.
Comment by claire — October 20, 2009 @ 8:14 am
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As many of you know, not only do I work online from home, I’m a single mom and I homeschool my daughter as well. It’s my dream that she’ll never need or want a JOB.
Of course I’d love for her to learn to do what I do so part of our “curriculum” is internet studies. My DD has her own blog where she posts her school work and she’s created several lenses over at Squidoo.
Seeing how Barbara and Kendall work so well together is inspiring to say the least and gives me great hope for my daughter and me.
ShellyB
The-Rat-Race-RebelComment by Shelly Begarowicz, The Rat Race Rebel — October 20, 2009 @ 12:39 pm
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What a heart warming story. Congratulations Barbara – my daughter is just 13 but is already shaping up into a wonderful marketing assistant. It must be really exciting for you that your daughter is choosing to work with you. The highest mother daughter compliment I think.
Comment by Rachel Henke — October 20, 2009 @ 1:33 pm
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Working with my daughter in the future. Right now she just can’t see it – then again she is only 13. She thinks she cant work on computers or make websites – it will be exciting to watch her advance in technology. Many teens are smarter than adults in this area. If that does not happen it gives me warm fuzzys to know that Barbara and Kendall are working and thriving together.
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Hi Barbara and Kendall, this is an awsome example how communication skills make family life much more fun and work. Thank you so much for that wonderful interview/chat. Me having 3 adult daughters with a wonderful relationship also between them – what a giftfor me as mom!! And the wonderful thing is that age doesn´t count if you are really present with people in a space of acknowledgement. One of my daughters was coach 3 times in a program where people created and fulfilled projects. She, 18 years old, was coaching 40-50 year old participants that would not believe it at the beginning and then being blown away by her contribution. It really feels like being at home with you wathing you. Thanks again!!! And I loved whatever I got to see from Barbara – now two times Silva! What a treat! Gertraud
Comment by Gertraud Wegst — November 1, 2009 @ 3:53 pm
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@Didi: I was doing cold calling, chasing prospects all over the place and I did not feel confident in the way I communicated what I wanted to communicate, thus my results were very poor.
So true Didi. There are very many people who have actually made a fortune even using the old traditional method, the difference is communication! Even as we master attracting prospects, if we are to be successful, we need to master communication skills and be able to listen to our clients. I have seen this skill change my business tremendously.
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Hi Barbara & Kendall,
Thank you for such an inspiring and interesting video. It was awesome listening to you both and how everything evolved.It actually reminded me that my niece is doing training to be a counsellor, and had made a comment that we could go into business together.
At the time I couldn’t see how. However my desire and intent is to be part of coaching conginition course and now I see another doorway opening and path working with my niece,and I have already seen other opportunities where I can help.
Thank you to you both I am truly grateful.
Comment by Rosemary Leach — November 7, 2009 @ 1:28 pm
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This is a great article about Mother and Daughter. This is what it’s all about…having the ability to build a business where one day your children share in it.
“Sharing the Vision…”Donna Wells
Comment by Donna Wells — November 8, 2009 @ 1:24 pm
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But What About Your Personal Life?
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I am so excited about being able to participate in the Coaching Cognition program.
I had an experience this week in a discussion that created an internal response of curling up like a fiddlehead. I know it is from “baggage”.
I so look forward to breaking free from these kind of personal limitations that have no real power.
I am very grateful to Renegade Professional, Mike Klingler, Barbara Silva and team for making Coaching Cognition happen for us.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 14, 2009 @ 9:20 pm
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(Is this ‘really’ THAT difficult?)
There is also the opportunity to become a PBN Trainer, giving you significant ongoing exposure within our community and in future lead funnels that would lead people to your tutorials, which we teach you how to create once you qualify. There’s no cost to this–just your contribution. So check it out.
Its key to success to master these no matter what opportunity you’re in or what system you use, so I REALLY hope you’ve made this a top area of focus.
P.P.S. Are you ready for the truth about what you can exactly do to succeed in your business? The easiest, more effortless way? If you read this email in its entirely and the links it connect to and you still don’t know exactly what to do, read it again.
Log into Renegade Professional and if you’ve lost your way, begin at the Start Here Checklist. Take your time. Relax. Take comfort in forward motion.
Not with Renegade Professional? Get back in here
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The thing I like about Renegade Pro is that is addresses all levels of Internet Marketing. The beginner will get tons of value and the more advanced people will also get tons of value. The key is to stick with it long enough to garner the value. When I started Renegade I came to the program with a great deal of knowledge about the Internet (I am a web designer). I still found that I learned a great deal that I could both use in my business as well as use to promote my business. I found that dedicating a few hours to the training videos each day ( or several on weekends) was what it took to learn what I needed to know. Focusing on one subject until it is mastered is also very helpful. Fight the urge to bounce around and remain focused – you will see awesome results!
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Coaching Helped Me
I am so grateful for the coaching program. I found myself is a state of complete overwhelm and frustration. I contacted a coach and she has been helping me find focus and get rid of distractions. I would highly recommend coaching if you feel you would benefit from it. (I think we could all benefit from it) Then, pay it forward. That is my plan. I received the help I needed. Now I’m paying it forward. When the Coaching Cognition program opens, if they will have me, I plan on signing up. I feel like this would be helpful in every area of my life.
MichelleComment by Michelle Moseley — October 3, 2009 @ 3:23 am
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Mike, I couldn’t have said this better myself “If you don’t complete your training OF COURSE you can’t make the same business transformations as our students who HAVE completed their training”.
I’ve talked with so many prospective Renegade beginners who first off are suffering from information overload, and secondly don’t know where to begin.
And I always begin by telling my story,start at Squidoo and follow the tutorials click by click step by step it’s the way the program was designed and believe me it works.And by all means develop a plan(you own essential list) and stick to it.
Comment by kevin thomas — October 3, 2009 @ 8:22 am
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Mike – You mentioned “customizing and personalizing your training…”
This is a crucial point.
I want to stress the importance of personalizing and customizing your training.
When you were in high school, or if you went to college, or perhaps if you received advanced training for a career – what was the first thing you did?
You signed up for those classes and you knew specifically what you wanted to achieve; you knew specifically what the outcome would be if you made it through.
You probably met with a counselor along the way – someone who guided you; a person who listened to your goals and then matched you up with the appropriate classes that would take you “down that road” leading to your goals and desired outcomes.
Things get clear real quick when you approach your internet attraction marketing/internet business that way too.
But yet this is where so many fall short. Well, you don’t have to fall short, and Renegade Professional is putting into place yet another provision that can help you NOT fall short.
It’s Coaching Cognition. I hope you’ve been reading the education pieces Mike has been putting out there about Coaching Cognition. If not, visit the following URLs:
http://www.renegadeprofessionalnews.com/EntrepreneurNews/coaches
http://www.renegadeprofessionalnews.com/EntrepreneurNews/mikeklingler
If you spend an afternoon really reading (I mean really lapping it all up like a kitty cat that gets sloppy with a dish of milk), I have the confidence you’ll understand the unprecedented training you have access to at Renegade Professional.
And it just got better because now there is – built into the training “university” program – a coaching platform.
So whether you are any of the following:
***If you are Brand New to Attraction Marketing
(You need an Introduction to your Professional back office & training)***You’re Not New But Seek Clarity & Direction
(You need assistance with Where to put your focus and to minimize ‘overwhelm’)***You’ve done Coaching before – or want to be – Or You Have A List
If you fit into any of these loose descriptions, you can choose to be serviced by connecting with a coach, or you can work even harder (and smarter) to transcend your experience and collaborate (joint venture) with Renegade Professional.
You have a several options to choose from, many of which Mike has pointed out in the article above.
The point is, and what I think Mike is really trying to drive home – getting at the heart of the matter – is this:
If you don’t…
Learn the #1 Characteristic That Determines Success In a “Noisy” Internet Environment – How to Minimize Your Workload & the “Overwhelm” while Maximizing your Time
Learn to Customize Your Plan – Know What You’re Trying to Accomplish Right Now… and At What Stage You Are In The Overall Process
Learn to Make it Personal – Personalize Your Plan – Find Your Strengths and Preferences & Focus Only On Those Marketing Methods You Enjoy Most
…you will most likely fail.
This goes beyond marketing (to an extent) and into a core essential list. The list was originally published by Mike, but it’s worth repeating here.
Essential List to Focus on Developing:
* A Keen insight
* An ability to influence others
* An ability to choose the right opportunities for you
* An ability to create and communicate value
* An ability to attract people to you through networking and marketing
* An ability to inspire others by truly connecting with them, by listening
* An ability to cultivate partnerships:This, I promise you, is NOT a formula, yet it’s the EXACT “formula” that will get you where you want to be, will put you in touch with the person you want to be, and you will amaze yourself after a period of time when you reflect on your growth.
All of these factors will put more money in your pocket if they’re cultivated around your passions.
I’ve woven myself into the fabric of Renegade Professional, and whether you need a coach, or want to be a coach; if you need extra “super” guidance, or want to be a person who does; if you want to contribute training of your own because you have previous experience in a career – I can help you, or I can direct you to the person who can.
Don’t wait, life is to short.
Eric
http://RenegadeProfessionalBonus.comComment by ericwalker — October 3, 2009 @ 4:39 pm
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“Inner turmoil and a sense of “lack” (not having what you want fast enough) leads to self doubt and self destruction:”
I am one of those students who allowed distractions, real life issues get in the way of learning. True enough, circumstances prevail that get in the way of progress towards a goal. Turmoil and self-doubt follow.
I am deeply grateful for the ongoing encouragement and determination that brings me back to center. The learning curve is always before me, and every student. Staying the course is well worth the effort.
I am glad, I did not allow distractions to become the master of my journey through Renegade Professional.
Comment by Pat Campbell — October 4, 2009 @ 8:56 pm
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Mike,
I have to say that your tutorial on Personalizing and Customizing your Training was the most important tutorial for me. I was so overwhelmed in the beginning that watching this was amazingly helpful.
Everyone can do this if they remain focused. Sometimes getting a coach to help through the tough spots is just what is needed.
The new Coaching Cognition program will add even more to an already outstanding training site.
Distractions will always happen. Feeling overwhelmed might also happen more often than we would like. But..what’s great about Renegade Professional is that it is a ’safe place’ to have these experiences. There is help and support from the programs but also from the members.
Work hard, stay focused and don’t be afraid to get the the help you need.
We are ‘We Inc’.
Comment by Deborah Marsden — October 6, 2009 @ 6:03 pm
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How many times have I fallen for the “grass is greener” scenario! And it wasn’t until I became a Renegade Professional that I found myself becoming more focused and on track.
Why would I want to look anywhere else when all I need is right here?
Staying focused on my goals has now become much easier.
What sweetens the pot greatly is the opportunity for advancement, such as the Super Guide team and now the Coaching Cognition opportunity and possibly becoming a paid coach.
There are no other communities I’ve seen so far that deliver the value and opportunities seen in Renegade Professional.Comment by Marie Leonard — October 19, 2009 @ 7:27 am
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Thank you for those encouraging words. I am finding my focus and watching the video again helped. You are right it is so easy to get distracted on the internet. I find having a to do list for the day keeps me focused.
Thank you
Jenn
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Hi DiDi What a great article – beautifully written. Your story is an inspiration to us all. Not only have you developed outstanding communication skills, you have also become a fine teacher, who never fails to show your appreciation to your mentor, Mike. Brilliant!
Comment by kisane — October 29, 2009 @ 7:39 pm
HI DiDi!
Thanks for a great article. I think I discovered one of my main obstacles. I am looking forward to hear more from you and all the other mentors.
Comment by Fanie Barnard — November 1, 2009 @ 5:06 am
I thought it hit the nail on the head!This is Day 2 for me in Pro and I’m excited to know this one-on-one coaching is available.
Comment by bryan aucremanne — November 1, 2009 @ 5:41 am
Hey Didi, great writing, very inspirational. All of us in one way or another have experienced moment of insecurity when communicating our ideas.
Yes, reading books and listining to inspirational cds
is second to none when it comes to improving your
communication wheater verbal or written.
Didi, thanks for giving us all the motivation and the push to continue pushing ourselves to become better leaders. Many blessings and please keep the good work coming…excellent article!!.
Comment by FJ Ortega — November 1, 2009 @ 5:58 am
Didi, I commend you on how far you have come with your communication, particularly in a language that is not your primary one.
“The training is six-month course and totally teaches you how to be a coach”
I’d like to talk about that sentence. The Coaching Cognition Program is an excellent introduction to being a coach. The first step is really understanding and then honing in on what constitutes good communication skills, and then practicing those skills over and over again. The course will teach this and thus sets someone on a wonderful path.
In the field of professional coaching, be it life coaching, business coaching or those who use a coaching modality in their clinical (psychotherapy) practices–the training is more in depth and intense than can be found in a six month course. I feel it’s important that people be aware of this.
There are many areas where the enhanced active listening and reflective skills that one learns in the initial stages of becoming a coach, are perfect for the situation and just what is needed. As a 20 year professional in the field, I am concerned about people coming out of a six month program and thinking that they “totally know how to be coach”. In my mind that sets up a false expectation in their own minds as well as those of their clients. Becoming a skilled coach takes time and practice under excellent supervision. Knowing how to recognize the nuances in a person’s situation and also how to respond to situations that fall outside of the basics, are gleaned from ongoing education and experience.
It’s also crucial to point out that every person has the ability to improve their communication skills, just like Didi. Yet not every person has the is cut out to be professional coach. By all means, the Coaching Cognition Program can help anyone who wants to grow in this area. At the same time, people need to search within themselves as the course progresses, to determine if these are skills they just want to incorporate into their current relationships and situations, or if indeed they are suited and interested in doing what is necessary to assume the designation of “coach”.
I totally agree with Didi about how crucial excellent communication skills are for business success. I believe that the Coaching Cognition Program will help anyone enhance these skills and thus enable them to proceed more easily in their business interactions.
Peace and Abundance,
Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW
Comment by Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW — November 1, 2009 @ 9:11 am
Hi Didi,
You are a perfect example of how with the right attittude and a personal coach you can develop your communciation skills. The level you have reached in only 3 short years is an inspiration to us all.
Comment by Judith Atkinson — November 1, 2009 @ 9:26 am
Hey, DiDi A.
Just wanted to comment on the great job that you did with this article it very informative and provides information on a topic that a lot of us may not may not have given very much thought about. But this topic is essential in being successful not only in business but in many other areas in life. I want to add that I will benefit greatly from reading this suberb article. Thanks, Peter L.
Comment by Peter Lockett — November 1, 2009 @ 9:26 am
Hey Didi
Your link to Barbara’s course leads back to this page. Time to fix it.
Rgds
Phil.
Comment by Phil Wong — November 1, 2009 @ 9:27 am
Communication skills are important for anything you do in life. Everything from personal relationships to business decisions and customer retention. People with poor communication skills find themselves unemployed, and dissatisfied with life in general. I think everybody can benefit from improved communication skills.
Comment by Dotty — November 1, 2009 @ 9:51 am
Hello DiDi, We all have so much to learn from each other, and the first thing is how to communicate. I learn so much from you and Mike. Thanks.
Comment by Becky Johnson — November 1, 2009 @ 10:24 am
Hi DiDi, You walk the talk in your article. Thanks for pointing out how coaching ups the level of how you are being with yourself, with prospects and with patners and clients. Acknowledgement is sure a key skill in that. Great! Thanks Gertraud
Comment by Gertraud — November 1, 2009 @ 11:30 am
Thanks so much, Didi. Your message resonated loud and clear with me, and really got me excited all over again, anticipating being involved with the Coaching Cognition Course, as well. Thank you for the inspiration!
Comment by Susan — November 1, 2009 @ 11:34 am
Hi DiDi
Thank you for sharing and your wonderful article is truly inspiring.
I really enjoyed reading your article and you have a wonderful way of writing. You are a true inspiriation to many people.
Thank you.
Comment by Rosemary Leach — November 1, 2009 @ 12:13 pm
i need help in communication skill.i have a great website and products,but i lack on how to express it in writing and verbal.please help.Thank you.
Comment by igor lassegue — November 1, 2009 @ 2:22 pm
Didi:
This article hits a lot of important areas about communication. Yes, I agree with where you are today compared to three years ago. You are a leader because you teach others by your own experience. Your confidence level has expounded from the very first conference call you conducted three years ago. You are living proof of personal development and putting into practice what you have learned a long the way. I am looking forward to helping out and participating in coaching cognition. This course will be a good investment.
Keep going keep grownig!
Lanette
Comment by Lanette Passarelli — November 1, 2009 @ 4:57 pm
Thanks Didi. I also realized the importance of having strong communication skills some time ago and it led me also to reading books, listening to audios, watching videos, etc..
During that time I came to realize that just by being exposed to these great communicators I was beginning to change slowly.
One of those mentors pointed out that we become a “composite” person of the five people we associate with the most over five years.
If you want to improve your communication skills, make more money, become more effective at what you do then you need to associate yourself with people who DO IT BETTER!
Comment by Net-Traffic-Pro.com — November 1, 2009 @ 5:46 pm
Yes, Didi, I can appreciate where you are coming from. English is also a second language for me, having been born a French Canadian.
However, I did have the opportunity to learn English while growing up. But I still search for words at times.
That’s why I am really looking forward to Coaching Cognition to help fine tune my communication skills as well as introduce me to new skills that any online network marketer should possess for continued success.
Comment by Marie Leonard — November 1, 2009 @ 7:13 pm
Thanks @Kisane, @Fanie, @FJOrtega!
Welcome to Renegade Professional, @Bryan. Rpro is jammed pack with all the info and lessons you will ever need to succeed online with any kind of business…But it’s sure great to know that there are a ton of people just waiting for you to ask for their help and they’ll jump right into it.
@Deborah Thank you for the extensive well written comment. I totally agree with you that developing skills is a process and that it’s not guaranteed that after a 6 month course even if this is Barbara’s excellent Coaching Cognition course, that you will be good and ready to go and be a coach. It entirely depends on the individual and whether they are cut for it or not. The good thing is that this can be easily recognized once you start going through the course, start learning and start asking yourself the right questions. “is this something I want to improve because I am attracted to helping people by starting my own professional coaching career? or Is this something I want to continue learning and excelling at because I know that it is going to be helpful in my life no matter where I go or what I decide to do?”
Thanks @Judith and yes having the right attitude is so important. If anyone thinks that they can move forward in a positive direction and see positive changes in their life by being always grumpy, pessimistic and negative than they really need to consider spending a good amount of time one on one with an experienced coach. They will have to change their attitude or the only direction they will be going in life is downhill.
Thanks @Peter!
Hey @Phil, yeah you are right, I just tried it and it takes us back to this page, but that was the intention.
This entire page, which is much longer than this article and the comments to it, is dedicated to Coaching, Coaching Cognition and Barbara Silva and anything related to improving your skills and embodying coaching skills. So the goal was to lead back to this page…But it is confusing right now becuase you are seeing the same article you were seeing when you landed on the page.It will be different when we add a new article. For now you can feel free to scroll down and browse through everything else that Barbara has posted related to Coaching and ignoring the link.
Comment by didi — November 1, 2009 @ 8:04 pm
Thanks for the comment @Dotty. I think you are absolutely right. I never thought about the employment issues that people with poor communication skills must be facing, but it just makes sense.
@Becky, @Gertraud and @Rosemary thank you for the comments.
@Susan it’s coming real soon in the next few days.
Our entire team is very excited about this amazing course. Barbara is such a talented person and such a great coach and we are excited to start hearing about all the success stories that will be coming out of the students of Coaching Cognition. I was a part of the first graduates but I will most definitely be going through the course once again. It was just that good and I am definitely not going to miss it.
@Igor You’ve come to the right place. If you are not enrolled at Renegade Professional yet, that would be your first step. You can just click on the banner that says Renegade Professional here on this blog at the right hand side navigation bar. Then email support@marketingmerge.com and they will be able to point you in the right direction and you can decide what would be your best next step – whether you want to hire a one on one coach, or go through the Coaching Cognition course or maybe something entirely different.
Thanks @Lanette for your kind words. It means a lot to me coming from someone I love and respect and someone who knows me from the beginning of my entrepreneurial career.
You are absolutely right that Coaching Cognition will be a good investment.
Very well said: ) @IAmNoTSureWhoYouAre @Net-traffic-pro
But yes indeed being surrounded by people who already excel or are better than you at what you want to excel is a big one. That could be your coach or it could be other entrepreneurs you decide to associate with on a daily basis. I have heard something similar to what you said from Ellie Drake who says that your income in the next 5 years is going to be the average of the income of your 5 closest friends…so choose your friends wisely…
Btw, I couldn’t find who you are even after going to your blog…A quick tip not that you’ve asked but it would be to add an About me page.
Btw, Ellie Drake will be speaking this Thursday on a special conference call just for you guys and gals, the renegade community, about Good Coaching Skills.
Pretty awesome, huh? 
I just talked to her tonight and she was very stoke about it and committed for this special call on Thursday. Keep an eye on your email boxes for the details of the call.
Partners in Progress,
DiDi Alcheva
Comment by didi — November 1, 2009 @ 8:28 pm
Thanks Didi!
What a great article. The challenge you must have faced…I live in the south with a deep southern accent. It has increasingly become a challenge for me as I step up into a role of leadership. Of course no one complains but I know that I need to have a coach because it is a problem for me.
It must have be great to have a personal mentor like Mike. Everyone at Renpro are really awesome. I am really excited about Barbara’s coaching Cognition classes. Thanks for reminding me how much I need to be there.
Be Blessed,
Sherry
Comment by Sherry Prince — November 1, 2009 @ 9:07 pm
Didi,
What a great article. You really show the importance of communication, when it comes to over coming obstacles. You give us your story. What a great way to communicate to the audience…
Thanks For Sharing,
Donna Wells
Comment by Donna Wells — November 2, 2009 @ 8:23 pm
Didi,
I say “absolutely” in response to each of the acknowledgments and kudos in this comment section.
What I know and watched, when we worked together (a tiny bit:-) ) three years ago was a commitment to the process. Whatever Mike, your personal coach asked of you, you did it whether it was comfortable or not.
You are transparent, you own your success. What you accomplished in this short time is because you kept searching for better ways to market on the Internet when what you were doing was not working as well as you wanted it to.
You keep yourself completely open to the coaching process, absorbing all you can even yet from various sources.
I attended several of Ellie’s events, spent some one on one time with her three years ago. I look forward to hearing her again Thursday. She is a woman of profound intuitive ability.
Comment by Pat Campbell — November 3, 2009 @ 8:47 pm
I am inspired by your determination, Didi, and all you have done to verbally and communicate in write on the internet in such a short time with such success. I agree that communication is a key to developing our business and personal lives and coaching can help give us a stronger skills, whether we take a business course or college course.
Kathy
Comment by Kathy Beaman — November 3, 2009 @ 11:04 pm
Hi Didi,I love that! The more you rrained communication skills, the more people listened to what you say and offer. So being in the other people´s world, getting what they really needed instead of staring at the figures – I could say having a clear intention and loving people while yourself being supported by great people made you so successful. Great that we have you now, too! Gertraud
Comment by Gertraud Wegst — November 7, 2009 @ 3:01 pm
I am obviously doing something wrong when I talk to people. After the initial contact there are usually 2 or 3 contacts and then, despite my best efforts, I can not seem to get in contact again.
I have been told in the past that my approach comes across as blunt and aggressive, this is not intended, in fact it used to upset me that people thought I came across that way.
I freely admit that I am not a chatty person, I like to call a spade a spade, I have always had difficulty in social situations and I tend to say what I think rather than what the listener wants to hear.
I hope I can learn how to communicate better with others as I am certain that I could do a lot better with appropriate guidance
Comment by Dennis — November 8, 2009 @ 4:25 pm
Thanks Didi. I have always been interested in the power of communication, but also realize that we learn to communicate through the example of those we mix with – family, friends, work mates. Unless they are very skilled, and aiming to achieve what we want to achieve, we are unlikely to be very good.
By exposing ourselves to the effective language through books, courses, and forming relationships with effective communicators allows us to become familiar with new techniques. I am definitely panning to complete the coaching cognition course.
Comment by Mary Speller — November 10, 2009 @ 3:12 pm